It is a common struggle among parents, to determine whether the behavior their child is exhibiting is normal/developmentally appropriate, or if there is something more going on. If your child’s behavior consistently disrupts daily routines, causes difficulty participating in school, and/or seems to impact their ability to interact with others for longer than a few weeks, then it may be time to talk with someone.

As a parent of twin boys, with 15 years of behavioral therapy background in a professional setting, Niki Theiler, LHMC, of the Blend Institute in Lakewood Ranch, Florida, can assure you there is no single “right” way to parent. Parenting is an ongoing learning experience that requires strategic thinking and adaptation to your child’s needs. Niki suggests that if parents are noticing one or more of the following behaviors, they consider getting an evaluation. It might benefit their child to learn better ways to communicate and handle their emotions, making them more successful at home and at school.

• Trouble falling asleep or sleep regressions
•  Change in appetite
• Regressions in toileting, bed wetting
• Increase in noncompliance
• Longer, more frequent, more intense tantrums
• Irritability, or lower frustration tolerance
• Difficulty concentrating
• Complaints of stomachaches or headaches

If you decide to pursue mental health treatment for your child, it is beneficial to find a provider who has experience with or specializes in children. A therapist who is trained to work with children will be able to use language and child-friendly approaches that will help them process their feelings. For therapy to be most effective, your child needs to trust and form a connection with their therapist. Oftentimes, it can be difficult for kids to voice what they are feeling and be vulnerable, especially if they don’t trust the person they are talking to.

During your first appointment, expect your therapist to spend time getting to know you and your child. Understanding the family and the dynamic at hand is vital to curating an effective treatment plan. I will ask many questions about family history/upbringing and development/behavioral concerns.

Seeking out treatment can be scary for us as parents and for our kids. Having a warm conversation with your child prior to the appointment, letting them know what to expect, will help. Tell them they will be able to play and talk with someone who is really good at understanding people’s feelings. Once you are there, the therapist will help guide you in how to further discuss treatments and implement helpful strategies at home.

If you or someone you know is struggling with a child, please reach out to us at the Blend Institute. It’s better to seek help than wait and let things “figure themselves out.”