Date Debate: Online Dating vs. Professional Matchmaking
DATING IS INTIMIDATING, no matter your age, and dating online brings in a whole new host of considerations that could potentially leave you single for longer than you’d like. While online dating may appear a popular way to meet someone, success depends a lot on the area where you live, the stage of life you’re in, and the amount of time you dedicate to the search. And then there’s the whole “filter” issue. With Facebook and other social platforms, you often wonder how much of what you see is a true depiction of that person’s life. If you’re ready to embark into the dating world, here are some things to consider.
How old are you?
Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, Hinge and Plenty of Fish will help you get your toes in the water, but you may find the dating pool thins out as age increases. You will also find a great number of people who are not honest about their physical age. You know, the ones who are 77 but “feel 57.” We know age is nothing but a number, but there does need to be honesty up front in the beginning of any relationship.
Professional matchmaking tends to be most popular with individuals between the age of 40-80. Because of this, candidates found through a personal dating service are more likely to have higher education, advanced degrees and a variety of professional accolades. Oftentimes, too many of the dating app companies are focused on a younger crowd looking for casual, short-term flings and physical connections. While that matters, if you’re looking for a more serious relationship, this probably isn’t the approach for you.
What’s your batting average?
Do you hit it out of the park on first impressions or do you find it difficult to make a follow-up date? Perhaps you haven’t even been on the playing field in a while. Do you ever find yourself in a position where you’re wondering what happened because the relationship went cold before it ever got warm? We’re human—rejection is not what we’re looking for or are comfortable with, but it is a part of dating. Starting a relationship is a process, requiring communication, attention, confidence, growth, and self- awareness.
When using a matchmaker, you receive feedback on why a date was or wasn’t successful and have someone to process possible rejection with. You may be a complete dynamo professionally, but personally not so much, and having that guidance is valuable. Alternatively, online dating may feel comfortable to start out, but it can lead to a false sense of connection due to a lack of authenticity found online. Great on paper isn’t always great in person. And then when the digital disappearing act happens, you’re left with unanswered questions and unneeded self-doubt.
If you feel a personal connection is of the utmost importance, it might be a good idea to take a more personal approach and use a professional. It’s like having a CPA do your taxes instead of fumbling your way through the TurboTax prompts.
How much free time do you have?
Most matchmakers will meet you in person and spend the time to get to know who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner. Your matchmaker will conduct a customizable search on your behalf, freeing you up to live your life and pay attention to the day-to-day. How matchmakers conduct their search varies. At My Top Matchmaker, we represent over 1,200 accounts and new clients are consistently enrolling, which means we never stop acquiring quality clients. Additionally, My Top Matchmaker requires a drug test and background check on every client to provide further protection for our clients.
We offer the opportunity to build a relationship with our matchmaker in order to properly find your other half. An individualized relationship between matchmaker and client lessens the number of unqualified candidates and increases the number of successful dates. Plus, if you are one of those people who is not as successful in the dating field—or perhaps feels too busy to date—you get the luxury of having dates planned for you, so you can relax and just enjoy getting to know someone without the hassle of logistics.
Online dating relies on algorithms programmed to geo-target and keyword-target specific matches. You may see a large quantity of “matches,” only to go out on a lot of dates with people who truly aren’t suited for you. This strategy doesn’t cater to those seeking long-term emotional connections. Don’t let what represents you be a picture and a snippet about yourself.
Finding your special someone doesn’t have to consume your entire day. Working with a professional matchmaker allows for flexibility within your busy schedule. Once you’ve experienced that dating is absolutely possible with an accredited matchmaker, you’ll most likely never return to online dating.
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