"I have the best woman in the world in my life, we live in Venice, and I can't imagine a world any better," says Baer.

ON THE COUCH

WITH MICHAEL BAER

The chair of the American Psychotherapy Association obliges with some word associations.

Quality you most admire in others: Courage to stand up for what they believe. Best thing you learned from your parents (retired May Company Department Stores executive, and homemaker and co-founder of Washington Children's Hospital): To be honest and sincere. Best thing you learned from your patients: How to be grateful for what I have. Dr. Phil: Very expensive. Two years ago, I called to ask him to speak to us at the APA. He wanted $100,000 to come and speak to a nonprofit. I said to him, "You want $100,000 a day to come and speak?" He said, "No, Mike, $100,000 an hour." Easiest way to improve your marriage: Pay attention to your spouse. It's what we don't do with each other. We don't listen. Mantra to live by: Be yourself. Be honest. Be somebody that people want to be around. Top tip for parents of teens: Be a parent, not a friend. Most parents want to be a friend, be popular, get along with the kid. That's not our job. Our job is to set an example, be a role model, teach wrong from right. A perfect day: A day when you get to play golf and tennis and sail, followed by a wonderful dinner somewhere. The 90-year-old you: I hope still working, still volunteering and enjoying life and giving back to the community.